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Hunter and Superman
from Canada
Updated - 1/25/2011
Orifinally posted on 5/18/2010
























Your Name/Nickname......... Hunter                      Age: 38             Sun sign....Capricorn

Country........................Canada                              State........... N/A

Occupation..................Administrative Assistant

Email contact...............N/A

Your twins name/nickname........ Superman        Age:  25             Sun sign.....Leo
                                                                                                    
Country.........................Canada                             State ........... N/A
                                                    
Occupation..................Teacher



Please tell us how you met? (Internet, store, vacationing, dancing, etc....) 

We met when he started teaching at the martial arts school that my children attend.



Please tell us about those special things that draw you to your soulmate or twin flame?  

His energy, patience, kindness, intelligence...he really is Superman; he has the soul of a hero.  When I picture his essence, he looks like my perception of an Archangel complete with gold breastplate and flaming sword fighting for truth and integrity.



How has finding your soulmate/twin flame changed your life?  

Since I found him, I am no longer in an abusive marriage. He was the catalyst that made me realize that I deserved better and yet, it was the ex that was the catalyst that prompted me to confide in Superman what was going on in order to protect him for the ex's jealous wrath. I am stronger now and my home is filled with peace.  Superman now has a life outside of work though it is no longer with me. And he, too, experienced what a "real" family should be like. And as Superman once said.."this is what a great relationship is supposed to be like"



Do you share many synchronicitis together? If so, please think of what they are and tell us? 

We are very similar in personality. We both are very sensitive, though I express my emotions very easily and he is very practical and logical. We are both vibrant, yet private people.  He was excited to finally meet someone with the same sense of humor and the same streak of stubbornness.  I recently discovered Destiny Cards and was almost not surprised to find out we both have the same card...the 8 of Diamonds.  This means we are mirrors of each other. It is interesting to me, because I feel we are the same, yet on some things, complete polar opposites such as the emotional versus the logical. But we both share the same love of children and the same desire to teach....Children of all ages, including teens are drawn to us. We also both had difficult childhoods.  We also experienced the same issues though with different �players� and circumstances.  And it seems even though we are able to love and talk to all sorts of people and to genuinely enjoy their company, there is a deep swath of loneliness in us that is healed when we are together. Yet we both also desire a lot of space and freedom. Of interest to me was the fact we never fought.  If we disagreed we were always able to talk through things calmly and often found solutions that we wouldn't have thought of alone.



If you believe you have found your soulmate or twin flame but he/she doesn't know it or can't be with you due to certain circumstances, please tell us about your situation here. 

I know I have found someone special.  I didn't want to accept it at first. During the early stages I thought I was going crazy. In fact the (ex) husband tried to convince me that I needed professional help.  As for my Twin, he has acknowledged that "freaky" things happen between us, but we have never openly discussed it. He is very grounded in "reality" and practical things and has very tight control over his emotions and often quashes his instincts in order to do what is expected of him.



Below, list all strange phenomena, if any, related to time, increased psychic abilities, or feelings pertaining to how your partner is feeling when you are separated from one another.  

During the short time that he was my instructor, I noticed many "different" things.  We both could finish each other's sentences or answer each other's unspoken questions.  As well, if I said his name in my head, no matter what activity we were doing, he would look at me.  During one activity in which we were practising our self defense moves, and he was the "attacker" I "saw" in my head every attack he was going to do on each student just before he did it.  We often ordered the same foods or would each be thinking of the same topics.  At a crafter's show, we approached a table of gemstone jewelry.  He was at one end, I at the other.  I bent down to pick up a piece and the vendor exclaimed "OMG are you two together??" We weren't sure what she was alluding to, due to the fact there is quite an age difference.  Apparently we both, at separate ends of the table, picked up the exact same type of brilliantly cut blue stone at the same time. She was amazed.
We were surprised that she noticed and yet it confirmed to us, as well as the vendor, how connected we were.

When we were together, it seemed like time flew by. Hours would pass by and we had no idea.  We had many late nights. We are pretty much apart now and have been since New Year's.  I miss him everyday. And lately it feels like he is consciously "blocking" our connection. I can't explain it, but I feel cut off and blind.  I have never felt so devastated. Even the end of my 15 year marriage did not cause this much pain and grief.

Yet just recently I had rented Avatar on a Friday night but didn't watch it. On Saturday night, I and a girlfriend had rented Sherlock Holmes, but didn't get a chance to view it.  On Sunday when Superman and I were at a mutual friend's home, she suggested we watch a movie.  I suggested Avatar, but Superman had rented and watched it on the Friday that I had rented it.  Then we suggested Sherlock Holmes...he told me he had rented it and had planned to watch it Saturday night, but got sidetracked so he wanted to head home and watch it. It unnerved him a bit, partly because of the "coincidence" but also because my friend was laughing so hard.

Due to everything that has happened especially this past year, I find that I am able to "move" energy more to people that need it and especially to him even when we aren't close together.  I found that I could "heal" some of his pains and aches and last year, I found we often had the same ailments.



Do you and your partner have the feeling that this isn't the only lifetime you have spent together? If so, please tell us about it, below. 

To be honest, we never really discussed this. Our time together was fairly short. We just seemed to accept the fact that I was "different" to him than anyone he had ever met before.  I felt like I had known him in a couple of lives prior to this one...not many though and both ended sadly with unrequited relationships.  In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if he had been killed early on by a jealous suitor....or else I had died. At any rate, in both lives, one of us "abandoned" the other.



How would you describe your life up until the time you found your soulmate or twin flame? What is the last "big thing" to have happened to you prior to your reunion? 

I was living an unhappy life. My marriage of 10 years was controlling and emotionally abusive. I had just had a son and had resigned myself that this was my "fate". I had convinced myself that the life I was living was what I needed to suffer through to learn life's lessons. I thought that marriages like this were normal, having never seen any positive relationships.

The last "big thing" to have happened was starting the wheels in motion to escape the abusive relationship.



Have you noticed any recurring themes in your relationships, ie..past karmic experiences that keep popping up or the numbers 11 11 and the Fibonaccie Sequence as it relates to date/time? 

Yes. Sequences of 555 are very common and will start to appear within weeks of MAJOR life transitions for both of us. He started noticing 11:11...frequently enough that he looked into it online. And 444 often appears as we are experiencing life changes.



Have either you, your partner or both of you together, had the feeling from a very young age that you were put here to fulfill a purpose for which you never received any specific instructions? (feelings of a spiritual calling, a higher call, or a greater purpose.)  

Always.  I always felt different. We both feel people's emotions deeply and if we are not careful will "soak up" the emotional state of people around us.  Perhaps this is why his ability to separate emotion from taking action is so well established. Superman felt like he was made for something special.  And I believe he is too.  I wish all of you readers could feel the energy that he projects. He really does live up to his sign of Leo. He radiates that much warm energy.



What advice would you give to anyone out there who is either searching for their own twin flame or soulmate or is in the middle of one of these relationships?
 
For those who are searching....stop actively looking and trust that all will happen at the appointed time, usually when you least expect it. And when it happens, don't deny what is occurring---you are not crazy :)   Just trust.  And for those in the middle of a relationship: Enjoy every moment you have with them and realize that the cycle of separation and reunion is normal. Just trust that all things will work out.



If you were the webmaster of this site, what is one question you would ask, that you did not see here? 

N/A



Do you believe that upon finding your twin flame/soulmate that one of you has awakened the other, so to speak?

Yes. I started to experience "strange" things and as we got to know each other more, he did too, but he is too busy denying it and running. Since what we have been experiencing isn't logical, then in his mind, he doesn't want to deal with it. And to be honest, at this moment in time, he isn't in a situation that he can.



How would you describe your spiritual beliefs..? 

Not religious anymore, but spiritual.



Are you artistic..................................................?  Yes

Do you believe in reincarnation.........................?  Yes



Free Form Comments: 

I knew Superman when he was a gangly 16 year old student at the martial arts school that my kids went to. He was like any other teenager to me except he could do a really wicked "helicopter kick"...a 540 roundhouse. However in the fall of 2005, only 3 months after my son was born and just after I had resigned myself to the life I had and accepted the fact that I would be in a controlling marriage, Superman, then 20 years of age, entered my life.

It was a warm fall day and I was taking my daughter to martial arts.  I could see someone at the desk but not who it was.  I remember walking in lugging a car seat carrier, diaper bag, letting my daughter inside.  The sun was shining through the far windows illuminating the dust motes and I saw him. It all happened so fast but when our eyes met, all time stopped.  I had never experienced that before and all we could do was stare at each other. I felt a physical jolt in my solar plexus and I couldn't breathe and I couldn't think....my mind was completely blank.  And when my brain started working again, the only thought I could muster was..."Who the heck is that? He looks like Tom Cruise!"

Superman continued to teach my children and showed much interest in my 3 month old baby.  And as time passed, baby boy and Superman seemed inexplicably drawn to each other. I chalked up my feelings to post natal hormones, lust...really anything I could think of that would justify my attraction to someone so much younger than me. And often I had to be careful not to stare into his eyes when chatting, else I lose all thought...

Fall 2007: Martial Arts picnic: Superman and my son, of almost 2 years of age, spent a lot of time playing together--certainly more than his own father did with him.  I remember packing things up to leave. The ex was angry as we were taking so long and he was tired so our family was not in the best of moods. The early evening sun was just starting to set and lit up the leaves in bright reds and golds. Superman lifted my son up high in the air at arm's length; both of them staring at each other with wide exuberant grins--a real Kodak moment. And just as I thought that, Superman still wearing his grin, turned and looked at me.  Time stopped. Again. And all I could think was how much I wished he was coming home with me instead. And how much I wanted to grow old with him. A thought I had never had with my ex, even in the beginning of our marriage.

Superman and I saw each other frequently as I had children in martial arts and I also joined.  I noticed, as did the ex, that Superman often looked at me and would stay close to me. And even if we were at other ends of a crowded gymnasium, our eyes instinctually found each other.  We always seemed to know where each of us was.

I started to experience strange things in 2008 which prompted me to do some research and talk to spiritually intelligent people..often via Facebook. I described my chills in the middle of summer, the strange dreams, the "not" dreams that I had while half awake. I sought out Kundalini yoga classes and attended a Qi Gong workshop. And in all of them, even more strange things occurred.  I remember distinctly in the workshop, during a mediation, feeling as if someone stepped on my stomach and then I had the sudden realization that my marriage was over. And I wept and sobbed (I rarely cried back then) in front of all these strangers, because of the pain I was going to bring to my family.  I finally stopped crying during a guided meditation in which we pictured ourselves walking along a beach into the water. Suddenly I felt someone with me, walking just behind my left shoulder.  I entered the water and "frolicked" with this shadow and as we resumed walking I realized it was Superman.  Of course after this workshop I dismissed what had happened at the "beach". I figured I had just added in a bit of fantasy and asked my guides for a sign if what I experienced was real. As soon as I finished that thought, Superman's car turned in front of me. We live in a city of a million people and for me that was the sign I had asked for.

Being around Superman made me stronger and vibrant. I realized that I didn't have to stay in a bad marriage.  I asked for a separation, which resulted in my ex getting into drugs, alcohol and affairs...and culminated with me having to work with a team specialized in the prevention of domestic violence.  But I got through it with Superman's support.  We did not have an affair, neither physical nor emotional. But 5 months after the ex moved out and almost 1 year to the day that I asked for a separation, Superman and I began an exclusive romantic relationship. I was ecstatic and my children were happy. He was the father my children always wanted and the partner I had wished for. We gave him a life outside of work and he fit in so well....like we had all just been waiting for each other.

I was his first serious relationship. He had gone almost 7 years without a girlfriend at all.  Superman told me that he had never found someone he wanted to be with before and that he always knew I was "different" to him.  Although he had never experienced love before, nor saw many good relationship role models, he did know that he was growing very fond of me.  And I was fine with that. I knew I loved him, but I had gone through almost 4 years of soul searching to get to that point. I certainly wasn't going to force the natural growth of his feelings. And he was trying to sort out the "freaky" things that we were experiencing. We didn't tell a lot of people that we were together.  We didn't feel it was anyone's business.  But we were very happy and we were both just better people when we were together. We both finally found someone who understood us.

New Year's Eve 2009: After having just spent Christmas together discussing longterm plans such as meeting his extended family at Easter, or the possibility of having children in the future, he received a frantic phone call at noon. There had been a lot of drama at work, so the owner of the school was already quite stressed.  The phone call was from the owner's son telling Superman that he was about to be fired for being in a relationship with me as my children attended the school. At this time it had been months since I had been a student. We knew that student/teacher relationships were not allowed...and I had quit after the ex moved out...hoping one day that Superman and I would be together.  The son was panicked and insisted that Superman do whatever was required to stay on...even if it meant lying to the owner by saying that we were no longer together and yet, still see each other behind the owner's back.  Superman picked me up as we didn't want the children to hear the discussion.  And so, in a parking lot of a coffee shop, we agreed to end our relationship.  Although it seems small, the truck that was parked across from me had 444 on it's license plate.

We then proceeded to my home and waited, holding hands until the owner called to request a meeting with him.  At 2pm on New Year's Eve, the owner told him to either resign and commit to me or break things off and commit to the job...even though the owner himself admitted that Superman had not broken any rules.

Superman was 24 years old.  His moon is in Aries in the 10th house of work and career.  His emotional sense of self worth is directly tied into being first in whatever career path he chooses.  His dream for the last 6 years is to open up his own school.  I could not have him choose me. Though I admit, he had already made up his own choice for although he was fond of me, the thought of losing his dream terrified him. Neither of us was ready to get married which was the only way the owner would consider letting Superman keep his job and his relationship. Normally a very calm person, he was panicked---sweaty hands, shortness of breath, racing heartbeat.  How could I ask him to give up his passion for someone that he decided he was only fond of? I met with the owner and advocated for Superman's job because he refused to resign as he hadn't done anything wrong.  I asked four families to advocate for him as well.  I had already written off the relationship.

I have never felt such grief and devastation.  I didn't eat, I didn't sleep...I just cried. He came over a couple of times, saying at first that there was no spark, that although he didn't know what love was, he was pretty sure this wasn't it....that although he liked me, he wasn't sure if he LIKED me....it was hardest to hear those words.  And then he would tell me how difficult the decision had been and that he was 99.99% certain that if he hadn't been forced to choose, we would still be together. I fell into quite a depression. And he admitted he was not "NOT miserable." Close friends noticed that although his quality of work never wavered, that he was quieter, sad and not quite himself.

A couple of months ago we started communicating. He believes it is better for "all parties" involved if we remain friends.  It has taken awhile but things got better. We are never alone; we always visit in groups.  However I was lucky to have 45 minutes alone with him at a family event. We talked like nothing had changed; we connected like before the separation.

Recently, however, it feels like we are pulling even more apart from each other.  555 has started appearing again. The two times previously were just before the divorce ugliness and weeks before the New Year's Eve separation. I often work with  Doreen Virtue's Angel Cards but only on myself and in the last 2-3 years if I am asking about our relationship, the Soulmate card ALWAYS appears. Except for yesterday....Strangely enough it seems that every time we have a good day...or like those 45 minutes---a really excellent day, it is followed by days of being ignored by him.  No friendly texts, no emails, no conversation.  I am starting to wonder if I was just deluding myself.  Perhaps I only wanted him to be a Twin in order to give myself an excuse to leave my perception of a bad marriage.

A couple of friends insist that I cut him from my life or at least confront him and make him tell me if we have a future together.  I can't.

I am now questioning the universe as to the perverse game it played with me. I am angry at myself for allowing me to believe that this was a Twin Flame relationship. And yet, I know that I am supposed to just surrender and trust. And that whatever Superman and I are in, irregardless of label, simply IS.

I have read as much as I could find on the cycle of separation and reunion.  I know that what I wanted most when we were together was for him to awaken and figure it out. I like to think that this current separation was so that he not only realize how important my family was to him, but for him to start his process of awakening. I miss him everyday. I send him healing and loving energy every day. I hope one day I find the patience needed to let divine timing happen and the courage to accept the outcome, whatever it may be.


January 2011 Update:

I read over the original story and realized  how much grief was in it.  It has been more than a year since our separation occurred and not a day goes by that I don't think of him or miss him greatly.  Until two weeks ago Superman and I saw each other every weekend almost without fail.  We have mutual friends and found we were always at their home. Even though we weren't "together", there was something healing about being around each other.

It has been a roller coaster year for me especially emotionally.  I was fortunate to have a lot of support from members of the CD site...others who have walked the path before me.  This past year, Superman has really started transitioning.  He has implemented programs at work and seems to be taking a lot more "ownership" and a sense of responsibility over the school and the students.  He is carving out a life outside of his home, socializing with new people, playing hockey and really growing into himself.  He has also developed a bit of an "edge" for lack of a better word.  Superman is no longer always "Mister Nice Guy".  He is more willing to express his opinions and his true self with full knowledge that his friends won't think any less of him.  It has been exciting to watch this maturation process.

My children have left the school and we have very little association with it. I have come to realize how free I am.  No longer do I answer to anyone...nor am I waiting to be "rescued." I am indeed in charge of my own life and that is both liberating and frightening.  My life is what I will make it.  As well I learned how to journey, I met my Divine masculine as well as a number of guides and angels.  I learned how to enjoy the synchronicities and serendipities that have occurred.  I am relearning how to enjoy life again.

I have also learned that in order to experience my Twin reunion, I need to stop focusing on Superman and his actions or non actions. That type of focus only created huge emotional swings for me.  Instead I need to unconditionally love myself; I need to heal and balance myself first and follow my own spiritual path.  I need to create my own life of harmony, love and abundance for my children and me. And then maybe somewhere along the way we will be reunited because by healing myself, I also help him heal.  By loving myself, I love him too.  I am the key to manifesting my own reunion. If I can balance the Divine within me, only then will I be ready for reunion.

We both still have a lot of growing to do; a lot of life to experience and looking back, it is apparent we really weren't ready to be in a relationship especially not one with as much responsibility as a Twin Flame Union. He wasn't ready to take on an entire family.  I still had a lot of healing to do regarding my marriage.  AND when we were together, nothing got done.  We weren't moving forward on either a spiritual nor physical life path...we were too busy enjoying being together. Hours could be spent lying on my couch talking or even playing on our phones. As long as we were together, the rest of the world didn't matter. However for those in Twin Flame Unions, the rest of the world IS the primary importance. Raising our vibrations, spreading love and serving others IS why Twins unite. We weren't ready for all of that.

So I have distanced myself from him in order to center myself; to learn how to trust and love unconditionally. It is hard as there is just so much yearning. But neither of us is ready for reunion. He just wants life to unfold and for our path of friendship to follow it's intended course, whatever that may be.

I consider myself fortunate that we did have those months together.  Not everyone gets that opportunity and I thank God/the Universe/the Divine Source and all the Angels for the gift of time, love and connection Superman and I were given. For those months, I am truly grateful.

I hope 2011 brings everyone a year of harmony, abundance and love.  May it be nothing short of fabulous!








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