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Your Name/Nickname......... D. Age: 35 Sun sign... Pisces
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Your Twins name........ S. Age: 40 Sun sign.... Leo
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Please tell us how you met? (Internet, store, vacationing, dancing, etc....)
A girlfriend and I went out for a drink 3 days after my husband, ( who had cheated on me for the 4th time in 10 years of marriage) had decided to pack up and leave. It happened to be April 1st  A guy came up, drinks in hand and offered us each one. My friend, who was doing her utmost to prevent any male attention that night made S the exception and took to him immediately. He was fair and not too tall & not at all my usual "type". We all drank and chatted for ages. I showed him pictures of my 2 boys and he showed me pictures of his little boy. When we left he took my number. The next morning he phoned me and we had an hour long chat. I was quite taken by him and was astounded at how many things we had in common. We went on our 1st date on April 4th and I was smitten to say the least! That was the beginning of the most euphoric 6 months of my life.
Please tell us about those special things that draw you to your soulmate or twin flame?
S is an awesome human being - but the soul I saw shining out his deep blue eyes is what I love about him the most. His ego does a good job of hiding that soul most of the time, but when we were alone that soul was just luminous!! He connected with me on a cellular level and for the first time in my life I felt unjudged and completely accepted for who and what I am. I realized through S that I AM LOVEABLE AS I AM!!! What a revelation. For me he will always be my perfect partner - he is all I have ever wanted in a man and more. He is tender, caring, generous, intelligent, interesting, assertive, loving ,kind ...I could go on and on, but I'm sure you get the picture.
How has finding your soulmate/twin flame changed your life?
My life will never be the same again. He triggered in me the ability to look inwards and to realize happiness through myself. He gave me a benchmark of what true unconditional love is and he showed me how freeing it is to be completely at ease and accepted by another human being.
Do you share many synchronicities together? If so, please think of what they are and tell us?
We share many, I will name a few: we were both the result of unwanted teen pregnancies, we both have a younger brother who is 12 years our junior. We were born and grew up in the same part of the city, he's always hot, I'm always cold, we fit together like perfectly matched puzzle pieces when we lie in bed together. I'm sure there are many more but I hope to find out what they are soon
If you believe you have found your soulmate or twin flame but he/she doesn't know it or can't be with you due to certain circumstances, please tell us about your situation here.
I don't think S ever intended for us to get serious - but we did in a very short space of time. We were addicted to one another and I missed him when we weren't together. I know he did too - besides him telling me I could (and still can) feel it. 6 months to the day that we met, I found out he'd been with the mother of his child the same time he was with me. I did what was morally and ethically right (and I wish I hadn't sometimes) - I broke it off. He was aware by this stage that I was 3 months pregnant and I have not heard from him 14 months later. My ex husband came back to me about a month later, and against my better judgement I took him back. S's and my baby girl are now 9 months old and I have filed for divorce a month ago. I cannot live a lie and pretend to be happy in a loveless marriage. S showed me what real love is and as crazy as it sounds I don't feel he has done anything wrong. He gave me this last year with my husband to clear all the karma we had remaining between us. I only pray S's awakening will come soon, I'm patiently waiting for him. I am sure as I've ever been about anything that we will grow old together - it's just the way things will work out.
Below, list all strange phenomena, if any, related to time, increased psychic abilities, or feelings pertaining to how your partner is feeling when you are separated from one another.
Since this trauma and subsequent search for spirituality I have become a lot more aware of my guides and angels that surround me. I have built amazing relationships with my brother and a girlfriend which I wouldn't have done were it not for this crisis - they are the only ones I talk to about S as they're the only ones who understand. My intuition has increased markedly and for someone who was never too sure about anything I now "know what I know." If my intuition tells me something I go with that above anything else. I just KNOW S pines for me as I do him and I often feel what he's feeling. I have my bad days here and there where I get totally despondent and lose hope. I asked my angels 2 days ago for a tangible sign as to whether it's time to move on or not. That night I had the most vivid dream of S that I'd ever had - we reconciled at a children's party and the 2 kisses we exchanged at the end of the dream were so incredibly real - never had such
a real dream before. My message I got from that and the words that are repeating in my brain as I type this are: "Hang in there, not much longer now.."
Do you and your partner have the feeling that this isn't the only lifetime you have spent together? If so, please tell us about it, below.
Not sure about him, but I feel we have had a few lives together - not as many as I've had with some of my soul mates, but we've definitely had at least 3 so far.
How would you describe your life up until the time you found your soulmate or twin flame? What is the last "big thing" to have happened to you prior to your reunion?
I was living on the surface, cruising along on Auto Pilot. Never really dealing with issues that needed to be dealt with and just hoping I was projecting a nice image to the world. My husband packed his things and moved out while I was out of the country on business. I was sad when I got home and found this out, but in my mind a light went off that will never be turned on again for him. Ironically his actions made me see that I deserve respect and love for exactly who and what I am - no airs or graces necessary. Meeting S 4 days later and losing him subsequently has led me on a journey of a lifetime. A journey I would NEVER have voluntarily undertaken given my previous mind set. I am learning new things about myself each day and I'm nurturing this self-love that was so lacking prior to this awakening. I have no doubt that I still have many many things to learn, but I do feel the crucial bits ie: self-love and love for humanity are in place. With S in my life, who knows what amazing dreams and goals we will accomplish! Until that time, when the Universe feels all is right and our stars are aligned, I continue to work on my half of our being - making it fit with his like a glove.
Have you noticed any recurring themes in your relationships, ie..past karmic experiences that keep popping up or the numbers 11 11 and the Fibonacci Sequence as it relates to date/time?
Not sure about the numbers having significance, and please, if anybody can help here I would love you to email me. We met on 1 April 2010, 1st date was 4 April 2010. When I asked him (repeatedly) when he was going to introduce his son to me he always said "Give the relationship 6 months.." Well, 6 months to the day -1st October - was the day I found out he'd been living a double life and broke it off with him. His birthday: 3 Aug, mine: 11 March. Our daughter was born on 4 April 2011 (a year to the day of our first date).
Have either you, your partner or both of you together, had the feeling from a very young age that you were put here to fulfill a purpose for which you never received any specific instructions? (feelings of a spiritual calling, a higher call, or a greater purpose.)
I had imaginary friends as a little girl and through them I got the idea, around the age of 4, that there was more to this world than we could see. I would often feel a sense of impending doom or out of the blue would start feeling like everything was going way too fast. I also had weird dreams as a teenager in which I could literally feel my soul leaving my body.
What advice would you give to anyone out there who is either searching for their own twin flame or soulmate or is in the middle of one of these relationships?
Be ready for an amazing ride. Once that person has gripped your heart you will never have it back. I know with 100% certainty that I will never love anyone like that again and I have no desire to. I also know 100% that nobody else will EVER be able to evoke the sort of change in me that S did. Enjoy and cherish every moment with your twin - that kind of unconditional love we give and receive in these connections is all that is necessary in this realm.
If you were the webmaster of this site, what is one question you would ask, that you did not see here?
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Do you believe that upon finding your twin flame/soul mate that one of you has awakened the other, so to speak?
Well, I've certainly done an about turn in my life. My gut tells me I have evoked similar feelings inside of S but it will take a while for him to let them come to the surface, I do feel though, that it will only be a matter of weeks now, before he realizes he needs to start facing them. 14 months of living a lie is a long time - he's a good guy, his soul is beautiful. His ego is the culprit when it comes to portraying a "happy family image" to all who know him. This is a tough pose to hold and I have asked my guides to help him break free of this falseness dictated to us by society.
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What do you do to stay grounded in the here and now? From - Kristin and Jude
I have 3 kids to take care of and were it not for them, I wouldn't have wanted to carry on in the early days of losing S. I also regularly connect with the only 2 people in my life who know S and know what I'm going through. They keep me focused on the self love side of things.
When you look into their eyes or make love, what do you experience? Kandice and Matt
Looking into his eyes was like looking into my own - we all know how difficult that can be until self-acceptance is reached. I loved looking into those blue eyes (very similar to my own in colour) but I couldn't hold his gaze for very long. Think if I got that opportunity now, it would be amazing. The love making was beyond incredible. Never would I have believed that it could take you into a whole other realm - with S it did. I miss that so very much.
Do you believe that you only can be happy when finding your twinsoul? Or...do you believe in other soulmates that we can share a happy life with? Cinderella Man and Capmoon
I am sure that other soul mates could share a happy life with me PRIOR to me meeting and connecting with my twin flame. Now that I know "better" I wouldn't be capable of settling for anything else. The only alternative I see is to be by myself for the rest of this life as that would make me more content and happy than to settle for anything less than what I had with S.
Is there anything on our site that you would like to see? Persephone and Rosebud
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How have conflicts between the two of you affected your relationship? Pearl and Gloria
The lack of contact over the last 14 months has been torture to say the least, however, I now view this as a necessary growth phase for us and not as a "conflict." When we had the occasional tiff during our time together I never felt that the relationship was "threatened" as I had in all my other relationships. We would have our say, always maintaining an unbelievable amount of respect for one another (also foreign to me) and we'd often laugh about our fights - also something I've never been able to do before. A while back I went to court to get S to pay towards the upkeep of his child. Emotions were running high and some nasty emails transpired around this where respect for each other went right out the window. Being an exceptionally sensitive person one would think what he had said to me in those emails would scar me for life - funny, anyone else had said what he said - I would have been so hurt. With him though, I am so sure of his unconditional love for me, it was as if I had written it myself because I know with every fibre of my being that what he said was not meant at all, just like what I had said wasn't meant either.
How do you manage the intensity of your twin flame relationship. David and Margaret
I don't think it needs to be "managed" - it is beautiful and pure and some days are more intense than others. For some reason I knew to enjoy the time we had together, in my gut I knew it would be fleeting. I would watch him sleep and touch his face and just revel in each and every moment we had together.
What do you feel is your shared purpose? Did you know about twin flames before meeting? Do you plan to participate in twin flame events? Tracy and Don
To inspire those around us to love unconditionally and to encourage self love. No, I had never heard of the term "Twin Flame" before about a year ago.
What does the merging feel like? Anonymous Posting
Like going home to the warmest safest home you can imagine and hoping that time can stand still forever.
How do you cope with the terrible emotional turmoil? Anon and Anon
Take it 1 day at a time and hope the next day feels better. The days I feel like dying I try to be in the company of my family and friends. They've pulled me to safety many times. The grief comes in waves that just don't subside.
What makes you so sure you found your twin? Joanna and Albin
My gut tells me! I know without a shadow of doubt that nobody else on this earth could bring about such intense emotions in me so as to make me re-look at my life and deal with issues I thought were either dead and buried or totally irrelevant. I have never felt so loved and accepted for exactly who I am - not even by family. I have never felt this spiritual kind of love for anybody else ever before.
How would you describe your spiritual beliefs....
I believe in a higher power but not in religion.
Are you artistic.................................................? Yes
Do you believe in reincarnation...................? Yes
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