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Your Name/Nickname.........Ela Age: 38 Sun sign... Pisces
Country........................ USA State........... SC
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Email contact...............soulspeaks1111@gmail.com
Your Twins name/nickname........TY Age: 18 Sun sign.... Pisces
Country.........................USA State......... SC
Occupation..................N/A
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Please tell us how you met? (Internet, store, vacationing, dancing, etc....)
I walked into work one day and felt a magnetic like pull to him. His back was to me couldn't see what he looked like, but I just knew he was someone I NEEDED to talk to. I had NO interest in him romantically or sexually. I just had to talk with him. At work we connect instantly. Spending many an hour talking about life, love, betrayal. He shared his journal of writings that parallel my own writings of love. I never had any interest in him other then talking to a young man that was weirdly my best friend instantly. He would tell me about dating woes, I complained to him about guys....I had been being prompted to leave this job for some time after we met. But stubbornly I refused. The last time I saw him at work, I very clearly was TOLD give him your number he is going to need it. You see, we only talked at work. After months we never had exchanged numbers, never met out, never had ANY communication outside of work. I am incredibly intuitive so when I was told 3 times that day to give him my number he was going to need it, I listened and gave him my number on 2/13. The very next day, valentines day, I got a phone call firing me. (Fired because I worked for a friend that weekend) I was fired in hind sight because of policies of work. What was to transpire next could never have happened if I had remained at this job. I loved my job. Had no interest in leaving it...but obviously the universe had a different plan in mind.
Please tell us about those special things that draw you to your soulmate or twin flame?
It was just the natural ease in which we would talk. It was the similarities in writing styles, it was the depth and openness of his heart. It was never ANY sexual interest in all those months we talked. We were just great friends.
How has finding your soulmate/twin flame changed your life?
After I got fired, about 5 weeks later I got a phone call from him. Do to a multitude of life events, he became homeless 2 weeks after I got fired. He had lived under a bridge, eating at shelters for about a month. EVERYTHNG he had was stolen. Then one day he put his hand in his coat pocket and found a crumpled piece of paper that had my name and number on it. He called me. I immediately went to get him. Buying a change of clothes, feeding him, gave him my extra room to sleep in for that night. He had a ticket to go to Missouri the next day. That night he came in my room and we talked for hours. Then out of the blue he began kissing me. Very quickly the line was crossed and it became anything but platonic. Afterward it was so weird. I am an energy worker, wide open in all my gifts, channeling, writing etc...I see feel and see energy everywhere. Well within me, each and every chakra had been blown wide open. We were both blown away...not cause the sex was good, but because of what the energy was doing in both of us. He is as gifted with his abilities as I am. The next morning I took him to the bus station and he drove away. I KNEW as he got on that bus he wasn't suppose to go. I cried and cried as I felt as if I was being severed from him. None of this made any sense....I was not in love with him, didn't have any thoughts of a relationship with him, I just felt like my life line had been severed. As I was driving home, as he was on a bus to take him 1400 miles away, he called me. He had forgotten his ID and ss card in the car. I would have to mail them to him when he got to his destination. Now through a whole series of events, he got to his destination to find his only option crumbling. Over the next 2 weeks he was again going to be homeless. He asked me before he left, and again while he was away if he could live with me and my kids. As a single mom I had said no. After all in the humanness of our world, I barely know him, I have 2 kids plus other events of knew of his past. I told him on Sunday give me a week and I'll let you know. I then prayed for guidance. The next morning I watched Joel Osteen and his service was on labels. He talked about how god doesn't label people, situations and events. God doesn't label our past, where we are and where we are going. He said how God just loves us for the heart of who we are outside the limits we place in our society. I had received my answer. I called him immediately and said yes. With clear rules, boundaries including the no sex rule. Well he got here a week later by plane. The day I said yes I got my tax returns and was able to purchase a ticket. He got here in early April. Now we have been living together for 4 months. It has evolved over and over again so very quickly. We have rapidly hit issue after issue we both have that is related to our own healing. We both trigger each other massively at times. The fights were INTENSE as our issues and egos battled each other. But I know at least for me the fights we have experienced he is almost always right about what he brings up. This last week after another daily fight he again was slinging cannon balls and suddenly all the layers of brick walls that I have built up around myself through out life came crashing down. He is the only man I have ever met who can handle my energy. My vibration for healing and all things ascension related so, so high...my energy has chased me away for years. Yet here he is this guy that in a million years I never would have chosen as the man in my life handles me with ease. He FORCES me to look at and acknowledge things in me like only a stubborn indigo like myself can do. I can't hide from him any more then he can hide from me. I feel like I have been a ship drifting on the sea. Needs being met as far a safety, housing, food etc...but with no direction. I feel like we have been the ship, we now have our captain. He has an incredible strength and gifted in an ever evolving, refining leadership. He has chosen to step up with my kids which had been the main source of fighting. I was saying yes I was ok with that, yet fighting him every step of the way. This last month has been incredibly intense and outright horrible. It has felt as if every issue we need to address has hit fast and hard. Like they each need to be resolved quickly for what is to come next. We need to get us and the family in order to move into the next phase. I do not know where he and I are going. But I know I don't need to. We are evolving day by day. But I know with his stubborn persistence he has knocked down so many of my own ego based walls of protection so that I am ready to move forward again as a team with him. I know either way
it is perfect, and divinely guided. No matter what should unfold it will be perfect because it already is.
Do you share many synchronicities together? If so, please think of what they are and tell us?
Synchronicities have been the name of the game since day one. Magnetic need to interact, fired from job so we wouldn't violate policies, told to give him my number messages from Joel Osteen, leaving his ID in my car, nowhere to go again, tax returns showing up the day I decided to let him stay with us. The list could go on and on. The most pronounced for me though is EVERY time we go to the ocean we see dolphins together. Never in 10 years of living on the coast have I seen them but on an incredibly rare occasion. When we first began having an intimate relationship a few months ago we were at the beach and a pod of dolphins began swimming around us. I reached out my hand to him. As we took hands 3 dolphins swam right in front of us. All 3 coming up out of the water to breath, gently, side by side in unison. The first one was close enough that we were able to touch him. It was absolutely magical...then the chaos and incredible intensity started. LOL Even down to money being incredibly tight, he can't find a job...we are being FORCED to spend all but 24 hours a week together (when I'm at work). We are being forced by a higher power to interact and grow. In the human it makes no sense. Our age being the primary factor. Never in a million years would either of us EVER have chosen each other. But due to completely guided/synchronistic events, living situations we have found a deep love for each other that is different then the romantic love I have ever experienced. When either of us tries to connect or date with someone in our own age groups it is BLOCKED instantly. We both recognize it and have in the last month then again last week recommitted to each other. It is intense. It makes no sense in the human...but it is because it is and it is deeper then I could ever imagine with anyone.
If you believe you have found your soulmate or twin flame but he/she doesn't know it or can't be with you due to certain circumstances, please tell us about your situation here.
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Below, list all strange phenomena, if any, related to time, increased psychic abilities, or feelings pertaining to how your partner is feeling when you are separated from one another.
We were both already wide open. I am a healer as well. He is as powerful as the energy that flows through me due to his heart connection, yet he is hesitant to step into it. He has a bit of his own battle going on in what society says an 18 y/o should be doing with what he KNOWS he is here to do and the deep soul connection that exists. When we are apart it feels like a rubber band being stretched too far. The further apart we are the greater the need to be back together. At times at work I feel a bit lost out of orbit. It is like both of our energies orbit each other. When we are too far apart it feels like we are out of orbit. Once we are back together it is a relief and feels right again.
Do you and your partner have the feeling that this isn't the only lifetime you have spent together? If so, please tell us about it, below.
This is the first person I feel or have seen no past lives. I feel like we do not have any personal karma together. But one day I had an incredibly powerful vision that rocked my whole body. I had to pull over and cried and cried. He was holding me, head in lap tears dripping onto my face as I was dyeing. He was telling me it was ok to go. How much he loved me and he promised he would find me again. At first I thought it was a past life memory. But the energy was his strong energy of who he is now. I feel like it was a future vision. But whether is was past life or future in this life, it matters not. For we are living in the now.
How would you describe your life up until the time you found your soulmate or twin flame? What is the last "big thing" to have happened to you prior to your reunion?
Drifting, surviving, meeting the day to day stuff that life brings but unfocused, unclear, lack of direction. Prior to our reunion big thing...I have rapidly opened up in the last 3 years. I had a bf for about 1 1/2 before him that ended a year ago. I think to me it was a mock trial for this real relationship I'm in now. It was intense but alot of time apart. He was 13 years younger so had to get over the age thing. It was intense and loving and healing in many ways but a man that could not handle my energy. I have been blocked since last march from men except a random friend with benefits....until now...
Have you noticed any recurring themes in your relationships, ie..past karmic experiences that keep popping up or the numbers 11 11 and the Fibonacci Sequence as it relates to date/time?
11 111 1111 ALL the time! Also 333....
Have either you, your partner or both of you together, had the feeling from a very young age that you were put here to fulfill a purpose for which you never received any specific instructions? (feelings of a spiritual calling, a higher call, or a greater purpose.)
WE are both VERY clear we are here with a purpose. I am clear on where I am going...he has some ideas...but to sum it up, he wrote recently he needs to get over his issues and worthless themes that come up or his wisdom will be lost. And as he reminds me...We are fish(Pisces) you are meant to go with the flow.
What advice would you give to anyone out there who is either searching for their own twin flame or soulmate or is in the middle of one of these relationships?
It is intense. I struggle with allowing and letting go...trust in your heart...because it is so very INTENSE...it may make no sense...but we are both trying to trust in the intensity of the process.
If you were the webmaster of this site, what is one question you would ask, that you did not see here?
What is the biggest challenge? For us it is definitely the age...in the human we make no sense...and people assume I am his mom at times....the judgements are a bit challenging from women...
Do you believe that upon finding your twin flame/soulmate that one of you has awakened the other, so to speak?
Absolutely. We are awakening and allowing each other to heal aspects of ourselves that we both need. We recognize in each other what is trying to heal and work to allow each other the space at times to push through the others resistance to evoke change. It is INTENSE.
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What do you do to stay grounded in the here and now? From - Kristin and Jude
We go to the beach a few times a week and do a bit of hiking as well.
When you look into their eyes or make love, what do you experience? Kandice and Matt
A deep connection not a girly romantic lovey dovey sorta way...just a deep love...a deep connectedness...
Do you believe that you only can be happy when finding your twinsoul? Or...do you believe in other soulmates that we can share a happy life with? Cinderella Man and Capmoon
I believe we create our own happiness. Find happiness and love within you because if you have it in you, you can be happy with whoever you choose. And happy with your twin...I am very happy, but as equally frustrated at the intensity of it all. It is difficultly living in the same house, dealing with the tf energy, are both incredibly high vibration of energy individually raising 2 kids that are wide open...parenting, budgeting etc...we, after 4 months of living together...2 months of being together...are where most people would be after years of dating.
Is there anything on our site that you would like to see? Persephone and Rosebud
Ideas on how to manage the intensity without driving each other away.
How have conflicts between the two of you affected your relationship? Pearl and Gloria
The conflict we have had revolves around what one sees the other should be healing and the other is usually right. It is the ego that comes into conflict as the other is calling each out on the bs that needs to go....it is intense. The other is almost always right.
How do you manage the intensity of your twin flame relationship. David and Margaret
that is a work in progress...
What do you feel is your shared purpose? Did you know about twin flames before meeting? Do you plan to participate in twin flame events? Tracy and Don
Absolutely a shared purpose...when ANY 2 people come together there is a shared purpose...
What does the merging feel like? Anonymous Posting
First time with sex....all our chakras were blown WIDE open...in general it is deeper...not in a lovey dovey romantic infatuation way...just so deep that it amazes me at how deep and profound just looking into his eyes feels.
How do you cope with the terrible emotional turmoil? Anon and Anon
That is a work in progress...I think we are just too stubborn to give up...you know that indigo energy...we are hardheaded and stubborn and love each other...but better tools are needed. No one can handle the emotional intensity like this indefinitely.
What makes you so sure you found your twin? Joanna and Albin
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How would you describe your spiritual beliefs....
Love...Unity...One
Are you artistic.................................................? Yes
Do you believe in reincarnation...................? Yes
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From The USA Posted on 8/1/2011 or 11 11
