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Jasmine and William
Our 100th Twin Flame Story
From The USA
Posted on 4/13/2011
Your Name/Nickname.........Jasmine Age: 44 Sun sign...... Libra
Country........................USA State........... CA
Occupation..................Medical Provider
Email contact...............N/A
Your Twins name/nickname........William Age: 44 Sun sign..... Libra
Country.........................USA State........... CA
Occupation.................. Business Owner
Site Link.......................N/A
Please tell us how you met? (Internet, store, vacationing, dancing, etc....)
We met when we were 16 at a dance club. My parents were very strict. I was not allowed to date or to go to parties, and my phone calls were monitored for boys. Although I was respectful with my parents and did wonderful in school, I had a very independent streak and would do what I wanted to do and what I wanted to do was to go out dancing with my friends. That November 20, 1983, Sunday night, I decided to sneak out and go to this club I had heard about. I had sneaked out of the house, "borrowed" my brother's car and went with a girlfriend to this club for 21 and under. That night William was with a guy friend and saw me walk by. Apparently he was scared that I would reject him but had worked up the courage to ask me to dance. As soon as I looked into his eyes, I was so taken by his beautiful dark brown eyes and couldn't believe that this beautiful boy was standing in front of me asking me to dance. I couldn't take my eyes off him. We tried to talk over the loud music. He told me that I stood out from all the girls in the club, and I told him that I liked his eyes. We talked and got each other's names and eventually phone numbers. My first day back in school after having met William, I was walking on clouds. My friends knew that I was in love. I began to sneak out to see William whenever the opportunity presents itself. We were limited by distance. We lived 45 minutes from each other and went to different high schools. Neither one of us had a car, so whenever he could borrow his mom's car, or whenever I could catch a ride with my sister and her boyfriend, then I could see William for a few hours at a time. Every time I got to see William, it was like being in heaven. Every time we had to say goodbye to each other, it was so painful that after he walked away, I would quietly break down and cry. I didn't want my sister or her boyfriend to know that I was crying. During our first 6 meetings/dates, William never kissed me as he was somewhat shy, and I was also shy. He waited until we saw each other on New Year's day of 1984, and after we had just gone to the movies, we were standing outside his car in the parking lot, and he asked me "Will you go with me?" I wasn't sure what he had meant so I asked him "Go where?" He explained that he wanted me to be his girlfriend. I was ecstatic and told him yes. That was when we had our first kiss and it was so wonderful. Only recently did I learn that I was the first girl that he had ever french kissed. I was soooo in love with William. I spent my class time writing his name and my name together. I even took a picture of him and sketched his beautiful face. I would ogle over celebrities who resembled William. I saved everything from every single one of our dates and recorded what we did on our dates for the next two years. William and I eventually became each other's first lovers a year later when we were 17.
Please tell us about those special things that draw you to your soulmate or twin flame?
When we were 16 and 17, what had drawn me to William was his physical beauty and my incredible attraction to him. He was the most gorgeous boy I had ever met and fell in love with. When we were together, we spent hours on end kissing and making out, until our lips were raw. It was all we wanted to do. We talked on the phones as much as we could, under my parents' watchful eyes, about our friends and families. Fast forward 28 years later, it seemed that the insurmountable attraction that I had for William only multiplied a hundredfold. What I see now standing in front of me is not only a beautiful man, but a much wiser, more mature, highly intelligent human being, who understands me and my ways, and who loves and adores me as much as I love and adore him.
How has finding your soulmate/twin flame changed your life?
Having rekindled my romance with my twin flame 27 years later feels like an awakening. I feel like I have been sleeping for the last 27 years, and am just now waking up and am truly living life. Don't get me wrong. Having my children is the greatest thing that I have done and I feel so blessed to have my wonderful children with me in my life. My children are the main reasons for me not being with William in this moment of my life. I am enjoying raising my children and realizing that the day will come when my children are grown and may not need me as much, and that will be the day that I will look to William to spend the rest of my life with me. But at the present time, having him in my life makes me feel so alive and so joyous. I feel like the saying "Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take but by the moments that take your breath away" speaks to me, and that is how I would want to live the rest of my life.
Do you share many synchronicities together? If so, please think of what they are and tell us?
Synchronicities - hmmmm... I'm not really sure. I know that we share things such as, 1) we are both born in October of 1966, 2) of course, both Libras, 3) he has 3 boys total and I have 3 girls total, 4) he is the oldest of 3 boys and has one sister and I am the youngest of 3 girls and have one brother, 5) we both went to Catholic schools at some point in our earlier years, and 6) both his parents and my parents are immigrants.
If you believe you have found your soulmate or twin flame but he/she doesn't know it or can't be with you due to certain circumstances, please tell us about your situation here.
William and I dated for about 1 1/2 years, in 11th and 12th grades. Then something happened around our senior proms. With such strict parents, we had decided to go to only one prom because it was difficult for me to sneak out. I chose to go to my prom and William went with me. Then William made the mistake of going to his prom with whom he said was a friend who had asked him. William was not honest about this and did not tell me about this friend who had asked him to go his prom. For some reason, I had a bad gut feeling about it and did some digging and found out on my own and confronted William. I was so hurt, I decided to run the other way and broke up with him. Even though we still saw each other after the breakup, it was of a much less frequency and with a lot less trust on my part. At this time, I had started college and William would from time to time drop by my college dorm unannounced. Since William and I never officially got back together, and I was still reeling from what i had considered was a "betrayal", and fearing that I would be hurt again, I decided to date other people. In my heart, I didn't want anyone else, but was so afraid that I would be hurt again, that I talked myself into believing that I didn't really care for William. I went out on a few dates with people whom I didn't have any attraction to just to distract myself from William. Apparently it was during one of my dates that William decided to drop by my college dorm. Unbeknownst to me, William showed up at my dorm and saw me kissing a date. Well you know what happened after that. William never came back to look for me at the dorm again and I never heard from William again, and we lost track of each other. Apparently about a year later, William met someone and quickly got married and had his first child. In my third year of college, I met my husband and got married 5 years later. After William, I promised myself that I would only marry someone whom I can trust to never betray my trust, and I found that in my husband. I didn't care that I was not physically attracted to my husband the way that I was with William, but I was bent on looking for security and stability in my future spouse and I found that in my husband. Fast forward 11 years after William and I lost touch, it was 1/1/95. My husband and I had been married for about 18 months. We had gone to church and had stopped at a local fast food restaurant where I grew up. Lo and behold I looked up and saw none other than William standing there looking at the menu. I held back my shock and got William's attention and said hello. I introduced William to my husband, and quickly talked to him in front of my husband. William told me that he was divorced and that he was visiting his 8 yr-old son who was living with his ex-wife. I wanted to talk with William more but I couldn't with my husband there. Over the next 16 years, I started my family and had 3 daughters, and William remarried and had 2 more sons. Fast forward 15 years later from that last chance meeting, I joined Facebook to reconnect with high school classmates. Lo and behold I saw William on Facebook and decided to make contact and said hello. Over the course of a couple of months, we emailed each other and got caught up. William and I are both married, he on his second marriage and I am still married to the same person. We decided to meet each other face to face. The first time that we saw each other again, it was as if time had not passed. It was as if we just picked up where we had left off 26 years ago. We talked and walked arm in arm, and then over a meal, it happened. William leaned over and kissed me, and that was the beginning of our rekindled relationship. We started seeing each other occasionally and slowly it became more and more frequent. Neither of us felt guilty about our rekindled romance, even though society dictates that we should feel guilty.
In our hearts we felt that we had met each other first, were each other's first loves and first lovers, and what we had together sort of got interrupted and never got to play out. With my head, I knew that our children need to come first, and that we need to keep our family units intact for our kids. At one point, I had tried to break it off with William because I felt that we couldn't keep up with this relationship and all the circumstances surrounding it. I had called it off for about a month, when William tried making contacts with me and told me that he loves me and thinks about me all the time. Eventually I succumbed and we again continued our relationship. I had once told William that my fantasy would be that one day when our children are grown up and are out of the house, that William and I can be together.
Below, list all strange phenomena, if any, related to time, increased psychic abilities, or feelings pertaining to how your partner is feeling when you are separated from one another.
I feel that I am the less psychic of the two of us, since William always seems to be the one with the great timing of calling me or texting me when I'm thinking about him or when it is a good time for him to contact me. William tells me that he thinks about me all the time, and I didn't really believe him. Then when I was surfing the internet about lost loves reunited, I came across websites talking about twin flames/twin souls, and was so intrigued by the information that I had stumbled on that I decided to seek a psychic reading from one of these sites. I spoke with a lovely female psychic and asked if she thought William was my twin soul. She told me that the feeling that she got from talking with me indicated that he is my twin soul because it is very strong and that it is not going away. She also said "He thinks about you all the time", the exact words which he had told me that I did not believe. She also told me that my husband is a soulmate, something which I already knew because my husband and I compatible in most aspects except for the lack of passion and attraction, which I have only with William. Again I feel that I am the lesser psychic of the two of us. William's mother also exhibits some psychic ability. Around the time when William and I started communicating by email with each other, his mother came up to him and discreetly handed him pictures of William and I at our high school Valentine's dance. We both thought that was very strange that she all of the sudden did that even though no one had any idea we were in contact with each other. I have the tendency to be oblivious to things around me, so I cannot say that I know how William is feeling when we are separated. I had not discussed with him if he feels anything when we are separated.
Do you and your partner have the feeling that this isn't the only lifetime you have spent together? If so, please tell us about it, below.
I had hesitantly told William about the things that I had read about twin souls on the internet. I was afraid that he would think that I was nuts or weird for considering it. To my surprise, he thought that it was a very cool concept, and even said that he thought that we are twins because when we are together, he felt as if we are one. I feel the same when I am with him, that I want to be one with him and that we behave as if we are one. As far as knowledge or perception as if we had previous lives together, I can't say that I have or that he has.
How would you describe your life up until the time you found your soulmate or twin flame? What is the last "big thing" to have happened to you prior to your reunion?
I was content with my life with my children. My husband was working out of state for several years and when he transferred in state, he was working 2 hrs away and was not home other than on weekends. My husband and I grew apart, and he interacted very little with the family. Now that he has transferred again to be working closer to home, he is interacting more with the kids and me, but my husband and I seem to co-exist without any real contact but at the same time maintaining our marriage and status quo for the kids. The last big thing to have happened to me prior to our reunion was that I was going to take a trip overseas to do mission work. William encouraged me to take that trip since it was a once in a lifetime opportunity to travel to other parts of the world and help people. Prior to my trip, I decided to meet William and that was when we rekindled our relationship.
Have you noticed any recurring themes in your relationships, ie..past karmic experiences that keep popping up or the numbers 11 11 and the Fibonacci Sequence as it relates to date/time?
I don't understand the Fibonaccie Sequence. I don't know numerology, but we met on 11/20/83. Our birthdays are 10/3/66 and 10/9/66. He asked me to be his girlfriend on 1/1/84. We ran into each other on 1/1/95, exactly 11 years after we became boyfriend and girlfriend.
Have either you, your partner or both of you together, had the feeling from a very young age that you were put here to fulfill a purpose for which you never received any specific instructions? (feelings of a spiritual calling, a higher call, or a greater purpose.)
I have felt that there was a reason that I was able to leave my native country with my parents under political strife, and that there was a reason that our family made it to this country, risking our lives to do so. I'm still trying to figure out what this higher call is.
What advice would you give to anyone out there who is either searching for their own twin flame or soulmate or is in the middle of one of these relationships?
From what I had read, it is rare to find your twin flame incarnated in the same lifetime unless you both are almost ready to reunite. If this is the case, I suppose I would encourage others to seek out soulmates who would nurture and support you and heal you so that you can prepare yourself for your twin soul.
If you were the webmaster of this site, what is one question you would ask, that you did not see here?
I would ask if the person feels that he or she is a runner or the stayer, because it seems that a lot of twin souls/twin flames want to run away from their twin souls/twin flames because they cannot deal with the intensity of the connection or relationship. I thought that by doing what my William did when we were 17, my William was sabotaging what we had with each other, which made him a runner. However, by doing what I did, which was to lie to myself that I didn't care about William and dating other people, that I was running away from him. In my case, my actions resulted in pushing William away when he saw me dating other people. However, I feel that perhaps this was fate, as William and I needed to be separated from each other for 26 years to learn about the unconditional love that we wouldn't have otherwise learn if we never separated. After 26 years apart and still feeling everything that we had felt and even more now, it's very difficult for William and I to tell ourselves that what we have is not meant to be. We cannot ignore that connection that we have even if we lie to ourselves the way that I always do to keep myself from getting hurt. I came to realize that both William and I have the tendency to run when things get too intense. I can tell that he occasionally shows signs of distancing himself from me for even short instances such as a day or two of little communication. I show signs of running by focusing my attention on my relationships with others when I feel that I am vulnerable to be hurt by William when he starts distancing himself. I haven't learned to let myself be vulnerable to William after all these years but I have learned to accept the fact that I love William no matter what the circumstances are. He also tells me "I'm so glad that you were my first girlfriend, my first everything. I will always love you no matter what."
Do you believe that upon finding your twin flame/soulmate that one of you has awakened the other, so to speak?
Yes. I feel that I have become more aware of the twin soul/twin flame concept and is waiting for my William to come to the same realization on his own time. He would tell me that he is addicted to me, whereas I am more aware of the reason for this addiction.
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What do you do to stay grounded in the here and now? From - Kristin and Jude
Now that I have reconnected with William, I feel as if I need to have an ongoing connection with him as if it is sustenance or food that I need in order to live and thrive. On the other hand, I had to rely on other relationships with other people, whether it is children, family, friends, etc. to help ground me because I realize that I need to be able to exist independently of my William even though it's so difficult to be apart from him.
When you look into their eyes or make love, what do you experience? Kandice and Matt
Our lovemaking is like sustenance that we so desperately need to feel like one being. When I look into my William's eyes when we make love, it is the most incredible and beautiful thing that I see looking back at me. It is so overwhelming that at times when we made love, I would break down and cry from experiencing the beauty of our togetherness.
Do you belive that you only can be happy when finding your twinsoul? Or...do you believe in other soulmates that we can share a happy life with? Cinderella Man and Capmoon
I believe that you can be happy and content with other soulmates. However, when you're faced with being with your twinsoul and your soulmate, you will soon realize that you cannot ignore what it is that you have with your twinsoul unless you are very good at lying to yourself like I am. If you have a very strong self-defense mechanism like I do, you can lie to yourself about not needing or wanting your twin soul, but deep down you know that it's just a lie. I still feel that sometimes lying to yourself is necessary because the pain of not being with your twin soul is too great to bear and rather than wallowing in the pain, you have to deal with it somehow. I just choose to lie to myself because it has worked and it has helped me to cope during the time of separation and pain.
Is there anything on our site that you would like to see? Persephone and Rosebud
I would like to find out what it is like for twin souls who are finally united together and living together, and what it is like getting to do mundane things together, and if you ever get into a doldrum. I wonder if my William and I finally get to be together that would we be victims of the routine and mundane things that many married couples fall victim to. I would hope not, but I would like to know if that is possible.
How have conflicts between the two of you affected your relationship? Pearl and Gloria
My William and I never truly had a conflict where we'd argue about something and are hurtful to each other. Except for the one time that I had broken up with William for not being honest about going to his prom with another girl, I don't ever really recall us arguing. I was simply expressing how hurt I was, but it was not an argument where one of us insists that we were right and the other person was wrong.
How do you manage the intensity of your twin flame relationship. David and Margaret
As previously said, I would rely on my relationships with others to help me through the pain of separation from my twin soul.
What do you feel is your shared purpose? Did you know about twin flames before meeting? Do you plan to participate in twin flame events? Tracy and Don
I'm not sure what our shared purpose is other than to show others our love. I did not know about twin flames before reuniting with my twin soul. I don't know if I would ever participate in twin flame events.
What does the merging feel like? Anonymous Posting
Merging physically is the closest thing that we could to merging in soul. It doesn't always seem enough but it is amazing, like coming home for sustenance to live.
How do you cope with the terrible emotional turmoil? Anon and Anon
I rely on other support network to distract me from the pain of separation.
What makes you so sure you found your twin? Joanna and Albin
I can't imagine feeling anything stronger than what I'm feeling. I think I would have a harder time accepting the fact that I have found my twin, if it weren't for the 27 years of history that I have with my twin. For me, it's the time factor and the undescribable amazing feeling that I have for this individual tells me that this is my twin.
How would you describe your spiritual beliefs....
We're both born and raised Catholics
Are you artistic.................................................? YES
Do you believe in reincarnation...................? YES
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