Your Name/Nickname......... Lola                          Age: 21         Sun sign... Scorpio

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   Your Twins name........ Dee                                   Age: 23          Sun sign.... Capricorn
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Please tell us how you met? (Internet, store, vacationing, dancing, etc....) 

Dee and I met when we were children. I was 11 and he was 13, and one day while I was waiting by the door of our classroom, waiting for the bell to ring, he came up and spoke to me. Knowing him, he had probably noticed me days before and had made some grand plan to get my attention. When he spoke to me, I felt like he was someone that I had known for a long time, very familiar. I was a terribly shy preteen, and it took a lot of time to get me to let loose with someone, but with Dee it was automatic. It turned into this game where we would race to pack up our things everyday and see who could reach the spot by the door, then we would make jokes and just chat until the school bell rang, and we'd walk together until we had to part ways.

Please tell us about those special things that draw you to your soulmate or twin flame?  

There are an infinite number of things that draw me to Dee. There is, of course, the uncontrollable magnetism that has forced us to collide over and over again even without our permission. We challenge one another to consider avenues of thought that we wouldn't have even recognized if not for the other.

How has finding your soulmate/twin flame changed your life?  

I think the question is how hasn't it? Before Dee and I met, my life was bland and lonely and I felt like I was missing something, someone. Since I was a little girl, I'd felt that I was part of a set, one of two 'me's, as if there was another Lola somewhere out there, lost and waiting to find me. A few times I genuinely thought that I was a twin and that I had been born without my sibling.

Do you share many synchronicities together? If so, please think of what they are and tell us? 

Because we sometimes have gone for rather long periods without contact, I find it funny that upon our last 'reunion' we both revealed that we were pursuing degrees in anthropology. We're both storytellers by nature, and love to spin everyday events into massive tales. The answer to "How's school going?" can turn into an epic story. Beyond that, I've often felt uncontrollable urges to text or call him at the most seemingly random times, only to find out that he's upset about something, or was just thinking about calling me. Over a period of a few months wherein I was going through a terrible time with my husband, I would frequently sit by myself and wish that Dee would call me or arrive at my door. Many times he would text me from one to thirty minutes later. One thing that I have always marveled at (and loved) is the similarity of our features. When we were dating years ago, people who saw us walking would stare at us and ask if we were brother and sister. We both have the same color hair and eyes, skin tone, we're both freckled with dark moles, have the same face shape and at the time we were the same height. It was one of the reasons I started mentally referring to him as my brother.

If you believe you have found your soulmate or twin flame but he/she doesn't know it or can't be with you due to certain circumstances, please tell us about your situation here. 

Dee and I have never spoken about our relationship past the love we feel for another. I know that he has recognized the feelings and the magnetism there, as we've both spoken in length about our relationship, the effect that being together has on us, and the magnitude of our feelings. Has he given the idea of twinflames a thought? I don't think it's likely, and I don't think it's likely or even probable that he and I could be together in this life. I've been married and divorced and have been in a serious relationship until recently. He's currently in a serious relationship (engagement serious, though they've been engaged for over a year now with no move to get married) and loves his fiancee dearly. After much deliberation, I've come to realize that even if we were not restricted by relationships and obligations, we would probably still not be ready to be together. We both have much growth before us as individuals, and our tendency to collide and then push each other away for periods of time tells me that the feelings are too strong, too powerful, and too confusing for us to handle right now.

Below, list all strange phenomena, if any, related to time, increased psychic abilities, or feelings pertaining to how your partner is feeling when you are separated from one another.  

Like I mentioned above, Dee has the uncanny ability to get hold of me when I'm upset and need him. Likewise, I've called him at uncanny moments of sadness or loneliness as well. For years, I've been having dreams where it's just the two of us, and nothing happens in the dream aside from us sitting together and existing in the same time and space, sometimes talking, but usually in a comfortable embrace. Sometimes there's a feeling of longing and dreading that we'll have to say goodbye, other times we're overjoying to see one another and bursting with smiles and laughter, but based on prior experience I'm convinced that these dreams are our way of staying connected while we're out of contact and physically far away.

Do you and your partner have the feeling that this isn't the only lifetime you have spent together? If so, please tell us about it, below. 

Unfortunately this isn't something that I've figured out yet. All I can tell is that it feels like Dee and I have been apart for a very long time and this life is a reprieve from that separation.

How would you describe your life up until the time you found your soulmate or twin flame? What is the last "big thing" to have happened to you prior to your reunion? 

I don't think I can remember any "big thing" happening to me prior to meeting Dee. All I can say is that when it happened, I felt a sense of belonging and the feeling that my life had just begun. Where before my path was dark and unenlightened, I saw my life as a straight line that I would walk with Dee. And aside from some moments of hurt or contention, that has been the case for half of my life.

Have you noticed any recurring themes in your relationships, ie..past karmic experiences that keep popping up or the numbers 11 11 and the Fibonacci Sequence as it relates to date/time? 

I actually have noticed some strange numbers popping up. Though we were born a year apart, Dee and I share the numbers 113 in our actual dates of birth. We met in November of 2001 at 3:00 pm, and when you simplify our birthdates it results in the number 11. We met when I was 11 and he was 13. That's a lot of 11's, 1's and 3's.

Have either you, your partner or both of you together, had the feeling from a very young age that you were put here to fulfill a purpose for which you never received any specific instructions? (feelings of a spiritual calling, a higher call, or a greater purpose.)  

Probably for as long as I can remember, I've held this feeling of not being quite normal. Not weird per se, but bigger than everyone else. Like I had a secret that no one else was supposed to know. Since knowing Dee, I've felt more direction, but still haven't pinpointed what my calling is, only that it is something larger than everyday life. I know that Dee has always had a passion for public service. His job is one of the most thankless yet also the most selfless.

What advice would you give to anyone out there who is either searching for their own twin flame or soulmate or is in the middle of one of these relationships?

Don't search. Let it come to you. I had no idea when I met this funny, strange boy that he would end up being my twin flame. I think if I had known about the existence of twin flames, I probably would have been so desperate to find my own that I would have ended up convincing myself that every significant other I met was my TF. Of course, Dee was my first boyfriend, so it's entirely possible that he left no room for error there. :) Always pragmatic, my Dee.

If you're currently in a relationship like this, don't worry, it will get better. Just remember that if things aren't faring well for you and your twin flame, this is your chance to grow as a person and prepare for your next meeting with your twin in another life, where you may be able to come together finally. This is my guiding star every single day; I cannot way for the day when Dee and I can come together and do more than steal moments from each other's lives.

If you were the webmaster of this site, what is one question you would ask, that you did not see here? 


Do you believe that upon finding your twin flame/soul mate that one of you has awakened the other, so to speak?

I think that Dee awakened me in more ways than I did him. I have always been the more sheltered of the two of us, have always needed him to prod and poke me to explore my thoughts. Since knowing Dee I've become more confident and have been able to embrace my own unique interests and thoughts, and have been much more open to the idea of pure, selfless love. This last part is especially remarkable as I grew up in a home full of resentment and void of affection. Dee, however, changed that in me and was the first of us to give everything possible to support the other. I don't think I can ever thank him enough for that.


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What do you do to stay grounded in the here and now? From - Kristin and Jude

This is one of the problems I have with Dee's and my relationship. We have no way of staying grounded. Dee grounds me in general, keeps me tethered to reality before I go flying off like a rogue kite, but when it's the two of us, we just get lost in each other and can't climb out. It takes every ounce of effort we have to break out of the strange sense of everything and nothingness that surrounds us and return to the real world.

When you look into their eyes or make love, what do you experience? Kandice and Matt

When I look into Dee's eyes, I see my real brother. Dee is closer to me than any of my blood siblings. Some people think it's strange, but one of the best ways I can describe it is that his skin is my skin, his eyes are my eyes, his hands are my hands. When we embrace I feel the gaping wound on the front of my entire body seam shut. When we make love, time and space cease to exist. There is just the sense of coming home and being at peace with everything in the world, of a total and utter completion that I've never felt in any situation. And when we look into each other's eyes while making love, the homecoming is even sweeter, more full and heavy, as deep as if our souls were meeting in a time and place that doesn't exist on this earthly plane. It's a glorious, private, joyful, heavenly reunion of souls that feels like death and rebirth all at once.

Do you believe that you only can be happy when finding your twinsoul? you believe in other soulmates that we can share a happy life with? Cinderella Man and Capmoon

I believe that we can be happy with others during our lifetime, but not as made whole as we are with our twin flame. I do think that if you have found your twin flame, your ability to be happy with someone else is directly affected by the state of your relationship with your twin. Dee has told me on more than one occasion that after spending time with me, he's more romantic and involved in his relationship, and I can say that our get-togethers have caused similar effects in me. I think it's the happiness and fulfillment that comes with connecting with our twin flame that carries over into other areas of our lives and makes us happier, more patient lovers.

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How have conflicts between the two of you affected your relationship? Pearl and Gloria

Oh boy. I can't tell you how many times Dee and I have had all-out emotional demolition derbies with one another. It's torn us apart over and over again, but even with the arguments, the disagreements, and the full-blown fights that we've had, we've always ended things on a gentle, sometimes bittersweet note. Six months ago, when Dee pushed me away (for what he said was the last time, though whether I believe that or not is another story, since we've been doing this for years), he was so mad that he was practically screaming at me. And yet when we met for one last talk and a goodbye, he wasn't angry with me at all, and I wasn't angry with him. We've never been able to stay mad at one another for long, or very seriously.

How do you manage the intensity of your twin flame relationship. David and Margaret

To be honest, it's hard for us to manage. The intensity of our emotional investment in one another is so high that when we're in the same room together, we're usually both a mess of shaky hands, shallow lungs, and racing pulses. The best way I can describe this is a bizarre combination of terror and excitement. We have often admitted that our feelings and the power of them scares us when in each other's presence. There are very few ways we can actually keep a grip on the intensity of things. One is through quiet moments being completely alone together, where we relax beside one another, gently touch one another's fingers, face, hair, arms, lock eyes and take advantage of what precious time we have. It's easy to lay side by side, noses nearly touching, and just smile with utter glee at being together. Just remembering the happiness of being together, brother and sister, twin flames, the feeling of being with the other person who makes up my whole self, takes my breath away.

What do you feel is your shared purpose?  Did you know about twin flames before meeting? Do you plan to participate in twin flame events? Tracy and Don

I knew nothing of twin flames until this year, when the intensity of our relationship nagged at me until I felt that I needed an explanation. I started out with the thought that we had twin souls, and a long search led me to the notion of twin flames. That was when everything clicked into place. Sometimes I feel that our shared purpose is to save people, to love them and to make the world a safer, more loving place.

What does the merging feel like? Anonymous Posting


How do you cope with the terrible emotional turmoil? Anon and Anon

Sometimes it feels nearly impossible. Dee and I have shut each other out of our lives on so many separate occasions, thinking that this was "it", and that we would be rid of one another once and for all. Yet inevitably one of us would turn back and reach out for the other again, and we would feel such relief and helplessness to the other person's pain that we would completely forgive each other and link together once more. The best way to handle it is to remember that regardless of whether either one of you has been hurt, there is still that boundless love between you, and I know that the love I feel for my twin flame is the most beautiful, uplifting thing in the universe. It ignites within me a burning pride and sensation of elation just at the fact that Dee exists on the same planet, that he is my brother, and that no matter where he goes, whomever he marries, whatever it is he's doing, he feels the same way for me.

What makes you so sure you found your twin? Joanna and Albin

Eleven years of helpless collision and an unexplainable (but good-natured) emotional claim that we feel we have on each other. I really could go on and on about my reasoning, but then I would feel like I'm gushing, and it would basically be repeating everything I've said up to this point! :)

How would you describe your spiritual beliefs....


Are you artistic.................................................? Yes

Do you believe in reincarnation...................?  Yes

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